A Personal Letter from Tammy
Hello my Sweet Friend,
Thanks for stopping by. I believe you are here for a reason. You may not know why at this point but I am sure something on this site is going to touch you in a special way. Maybe you just need to know you are truly beautiful….yes YOU! Maybe you need to hear that God loves you and that He loved you before you were even born. Which means He loves you simply because He wants to. Nothing you can do or have done will ever change that truth. You’re pretty awesome girlfriend…and God said so.
The LORD appeared to us in the past, saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” Jeremiah 31:3
Now can I take a minute of your time and introduce myself? Obviously my name is Tammy, (unless my husband wants to get my attention and then I’m Tamara Lynne.)
I am a Midwest native but moved to New Orleans with my good-looking husband to attend seminary and have babies in my early twenties. After graduating off we went back to St. Louis to pastor a small Baptist church and then to Columbus Ohio, (where I had another baby) which shortly lead us to Denver, CO, which tuned into Oxford England, which then turned into a beautiful town in New Jersey right outside Manhattan, (which by the way I was flying over the twin towers on 911 and witnessed the first tower in flames…this is another story for another time). OK where was I? Oh yea, and then finally made it to Orange Country, CA. where I live today (and forever I hope). WOW! That was quiet a journey. The truth is we all have a journey story. A place we begin and a pathway we walk down.
My path led me down many moves and relocations, which is part of my story. I think I have always had a hunger for more. To see more, do more, and to be more. That may be why I am a Life Coach, Pastor, and Author. Because I want more! And I want more for you….that is if you want it of course. I am just a MORE kind of woman. It may just be my thoughts of course but I believe God wants MORE for all of us. In Ephesians 3:20 God is pretty clear how He feels.
Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us,
I will never forget the day in 1996 when I wrote out my life mission statement.
“I am on my way to becoming the woman God sees me to be.”
That has been my life goal since the day I wrote it down. That simple statement has kept me focused and on track to this day. So can I ask you? What is your life mission statement? What is your story? What path are you walking down?
Good question right?
Ok, now that you know a little about me I would love to find out something about you. I am a story freak….I love telling my story and I would love hearing yours. Would you share your story with me? If you need some help I have provided a chapter from my book 3 Skips and a Jump… where I walk you though an exercise call “A Life Map” that will be helpful in formatting your story.
Now before I say goodbye to you I must share with you the greatest joy of my life. I am the wife of a fabulous looking, smart, and really kind husband, that travels the world with me. I also have three amazing successful adult children that all have equally fantastic spouses. And then of course the apple of my eye my incredible grandchildren. Ok there you have it…I have said…I am indeed a people person. Starting with the people I love most. My family.
Oh just one last thing. If you are around me long you may hear me say things like…
- Hello Love bug…
- Smart people put smarter people around them…
- What you say you will see…
- You are where you want to be, or else you would be on your way somewhere else…
Just to name a few.
What can I say… I just want more for all of you, and I hope you do too
Have fun checking out the site,
Like I said, I am a story freak…there is so much power when we share our story! Here are a few pieces of my story I hope you enjoy.
My Love Bugs
Well this will be one of my favorite topics to write about ~My Love Bugs. To be honest I’m not quiet sure where the term “Love Bug” came from, but I have been using it for years. It is an endearing term I often use to describe those closest to my heart.
I am so blessed to have three amazing children along with their equally amazing spouses. Together they have given me five brilliant and gorgeous grandchildren.
Our oldest son Jeremy and his wife Elisa live in Denver, Colorado with their three children. Our second son Josh and his wife Kim live in San Diego, California with their two children. Our youngest daughter Jen and her husband Brandon live in Denver, Colorado.
I think the reason God gives us children (either natural or spiritual) is to teach us about love. There is a place in our hearts that only children can fill. It is a joy and fulfillment that is truly an example of the authentic love of God.
I am so blessed to say that each of our children are walking out their divine destiny and living life to the fullest.
Our grandchildren help us stop and smell the roses (and at times other unusual things) and count the many wonderful moments of life.
Although I love each and every role, the greatest role I play is to be a Mom to my children and Gammy to my grandchildren, (“Gammy Tammy.”)
Next to being a wife that is!
I want to encourage you to stop and pray for your children today. Whether they are your biological or spiritual children they need a praying momma. My role as mother never stops. Even though each of my children have homes and families of their own, my job is never done. I am and will always be their MOM.
I have had the opportunity to work with some of the most amazing people over the years. Whether it was consulting as a Life Coach, starting my fashion company, working with great churches, or the many non-profit companies I have been a part of, God had truly blessed me. However, I have never have I had the privilege of working with such an excellent team of women like I do at Women of Influence.
To my amazing staff, I love you all and remember this is just the beginning.
Here is a little of their story.
Jessica Driskell, Executive Assistant
Through Tammy Hotsenpiller’s beautiful example and support I have rediscovered my sense of gratitude and self. I have always been very dedicated and hard working, loyal to family and friends, but I had become distracted by the world. Tammy’s sincere interest and her loving guidance helped to reprioritize and reestablish my faith and dedication. She is an incredible women with a compassionate heart, seemingly ever-growing. It’s a blessing to have her to call upon in my life both personally and professionally.
Ashley Allen, Media Director
Tammy was my mentor for 10 years as I pursued a grueling and competitive career as a television producer. She coached me through the ups and downs of my single life; and is now a beautiful example of what an empowered and balanced working wife and mother is. After 13 years of producing network television it has been an honor and pleasure to change my career focus and come on staff with Tammy and Phil at Influence Church. The media we create is more impactful and life-giving than anything I’ve ever worked on. Through Tammy’s incredible leadership we are impacting the lives of women around the world and I couldn’t be more honored to be a part of her team.
Jess Snodgrass, Women of Influence Assistant
Tammy Hostenpillar has given my life a whole new meaning. She has blessed me more than she will ever know. I am so grateful for her and how she has allowed me to be apart of this amazing movement to help woman share there stories and find freedom. Even though my past was far from perfect she accepted me and took me under her wing and loved on me in a way I have never experienced. There are no words to describe the incredible love I have for her and how much I look up to her. She is a remarkable woman of God and of faith and I am so blessed to have the privilege of being apart of this wonderful church family.
Melody Hernandez, Creative Director
Merissa Leatherman, Security
I have been a police officer with the Anaheim Police Department for the last 11 years. When I first heard about Women of Influence, I thought it wasn’t for me. After a year of seeing my mom involved in WOI and seeing her spiritual growth, I decided to give it a second look and it has literally changed my life. I have been a part of many “women’s” groups and have never experienced anything quite like this. Women of Influence is not just about women supporting each other, it challenges each of us to be bold, courageous, spirit filled leaders in our communities and in our personal and professional lives. WOI would be non-existent without the leadership of Tammy Hotsenpiller. I’ve never had the privilege of knowing, following and listening to a woman as influential and spiritual as Tammy. Every time I have talked to her one on one or have listened to her in a sermon I have been inspired, challenged or encouraged. I’m so thankful for her selfless dedication to prayer in seeking God’s will for the many women she leads. I literally thank God for her every day and the impact she has had on my life. I will never be the same.
So here he is, Phil Hotsenpiller, my man!
I remember the day I first met this good-looking six foot two, blond, resident assistant of the men’s college dorm. I was meeting up with my “then to be” fiancé, ha-ha. Yes, I was engaged to my pastor’s son at the time I met my husband. One thing I knew about myself was I was called into the ministry and I was going to marry a ministry partner.
Well as the story goes halfway into my freshman year I broke off my engagement and set out to see what God had in store for my future. To be honest it was not to date the popular, prestigious, big man on campus, “Phil Hotsenpiller”. It truly was a new life journey I was pursuing. I started dating the pastor’s son in the ninth grade and together we had made our life plans of college, marriage, and then ministry, but sometimes our plans are not God’s plans.
Once I got to college my eyes were open to so much more. Not just MORE boys, ha-ha, but truly MORE of God. It was the beginning of my personal journey with an all-powerful God and He was beginning to show me not only my potential, but also His Power.
Now to be honest Phil was indeed “The Big Man on Campus.” Not that I noticed at first. What I did observe was his desire to know God deeper and his devotion to the Word of God. Growing up in the church this was just a natural part of my life, but Phil had just recently come to the understanding of the love and mercy of our God. He had an insatiable appetite for God and I wanted what he had. By the end our college experience together he had asked me to marry him (a very funny story for a blog post I’m sure) and we were off to seminary in New Orleans, LA.
Our journey together has been a beautiful story. Three children, six states, two countries, and many life experiences have led us to a new season in life. But through it all God has been more than gracious to hold our hands and leads us on our paths.
We will celebrate our 40th wedding anniversary this September. WOW! I can’t believe I’m telling you that, but I do so because I want you to know that if you choose to let God walk with you through the highs and lows, ups and downs, ins and outs, you, too, will see God work miracles in your life. Marriage is a journey of give and take, hurt and healing, pain and victory, along with love and loss. The beautiful thing about this journey is that you have someone to walk alongside you through it all.
When you choose to LOVE, you choose LIFE.
I felt it was important to tell you a little about my journey in the park. This is truly one of my favorite places in the world. This is where I get grounded, refueled, refreshed, and inspired.
This is my time to connect with Holy Spirit and hear His voice. It is also a time for me to unwind and breathe deeply. As I walk I ask the Lord to walk with me and fill me with His presence and joy. With each step I begin to relax and notice the beauty of things around me. One of the reasons I make my prayer walk a priority is that it makes me stop and begin to value myself, not in an arrogant way but in a stewardship way. God has given each of us the choice of how we will use our day. For me taking time to go to the park to be with God reminds me of the value of our relationship. I want to encourage you to take a walk in the park.
Here is an example of how I pray on a prayer walk.
P: Praise God
Start your walk by praising God. Notice your surroundings and all God has created; trees, birds, sky, clouds, everything around you. Begin to praise Him for all His creation. Bask in the beauty He has created: the whole earth is filled with His glory. He has revealed Himself in creation. Notice Him there. Now, thank Him for His greatest creation: you. Spend a few minutes simply praising the God of the Universe. He is Holy: worthy of complete devotion as the only One perfect in goodness and righteousness. He is worthy to be praised. Don’t rush this time of PRAISE. Just enjoy your time with the Father. Look to the Heavens and thank Him, out loud, for all He has done in your life. Your talent, your breath, you capacity to love, all come from the Father above. PRAISE Him for He is good.
A: Ask for His Presence
As you continue to walk, begin to invite the Holy Spirit to invade you with His presence. I like to have worship music playing on my phone as I walk. I love to sing out loud as I walk. One of my favorite songs to sing as I move into His presence is Holy Spirit by Kim Walker-Smith (see addendum for words.) Be assured the Holy Spirit will come when you ASK. Begin to thank Him for His presence as you walk together.
R: Receive His Love
Now it is time to simply receive His love. Holy Spirit loves the things you love because He loves you. Love is a gift from the Father given to all of His children, but remember a gift must be received to fully be appreciated. God wants you to RECEIVE His love for you. As you continue your walk, embrace His Love. Often as I am walking and singing I simply wrap my arms around myself and thank Holy Spirit for the hug. Call me crazy, or call my madly in love with Jesus, but as His love overwhelms me you will often find me skipping, laughing or dancing through the park. When Holy Spirit fills you up you can’t help but rejoice.
K: Knock on the Door of Heaven
This is the time in my prayer walk that I begin to KNOCK on Heavens door. After I have spent time allowing my spirit to connect with the Holy Spirit, (and not before) I am then ready to petition Heaven with my request. I begin to intercede for my children, my marriage, my ministry, my heath, my home, my extended family, my dreams, my goals, and my future. This is a very intimate time with Holy Spirit. This is when He begins to speak to my heart and prompt me with things I need to hear.
This exercise takes time and discipline. I have found that God does not begin to speak until I am done talking. I must we willing to continue my prayer walk patiently waiting as Holy Spirit prepares my heart for His reply.
I hope you enjoy your walk in the park.
There is only one living God who exists in three distinct persons: Father, Son and Holy Spirit. God is not only knowable, but also personal. He is not only our creator, but our sustainer. The phrase Trinity has come to identify the relationship between the Father, The Son, and The Holy Spirit, to express their individual uniqueness, while affirming equality. The Bible makes it clear, the Father is God, the Son is God and the Holy Spirit is God….
Genesis 1; Deuteronomy 6:4; Genesis 1-2; John 17, Luke 3:21-22, Matthew 28:19-20, Luke 15; Romans 8:15; Matthew 6:9-15
About Jesus Christ
Jesus Christ is the Son of God. He is co-equal with the Father and the Holy Spirit. Jesus was born of a virgin, lived a sinless life, died on the cross and three days later rose from the dead. By doing this, Jesus demonstrated His power over sin and death and His validity as the Son of God. He will one day return to fully bring His Kingdom to this Earth.
Matthew 1:22, 23, Isaiah 9:6, John 1:1-5; 3:16, 14:10-30; Hebrews 4:14-15; 1 Corinthians 15, Romans 1:3-5, Acts 1:9-11, 1 Timothy 6:14-15
About the Holy Spirit
The Holy Spirit is the Spirit of God. He convicts the world of sin, draws people toward Christ, cultivates godly character, gives spiritual gifts and provides needed comfort in all season of life. As Christians, we seek to live under His control daily.
John 14:15-21; Acts 1:8; Galatians 5:22-23; 1 Corinthians 12:1-11; 2 Corinthians 3:17; Ephesians 1:13
About the Bible
The Old and New Testament are inspired by God and is God’s revelation of Himself to man. Divine inspiration extends equally and fully to all 66 books of the Bible. The Scriptures are without error and completely trustworthy. It is the supreme standard for conduct and reveals the way of salvation through Jesus Christ our Lord. Scripture is used to teach us, direct us, and empower us to understand who God is and what it means to have a relationship with Him.
Deuteronomy 4:1-2; Psalm 19:7-10; John 5:39; Romans 15:4; 2 Timothy 3:15-17; Hebrews 1:1-2, 4:12; 2 Peter 1:19-21
Man is separated from a relationship with God from birth because of sin. As a result, there is nothing man can do to earn salvation. Only by trusting in what Jesus Christ has done on the cross can man enter into a relationship with God. Salvation is not based on what man can do to get to God, but rather what God has done to get to man. Salvation is by grace and grace alone.
Romans 3:22-24, 6:23-24; Romans 10; Ephesians 2:8-9; John 3:16; Titus 3:5; Galatians 3:26
About the Church
The Church is the body of Christ in the world. It is not a building or a denomination, but rather a group of called out people who have put their faith in Jesus Christ. The church exists for the primary purpose of bringing glory to God.
Ephesians 5; Romans 8; 1 Corinthians 12:13; 1 Peter 2:5; 2 Corinthians 11:2
My Favorite Things
I love the movie Sound of Music so much that when my husband and I lived in England we made it a point to go to Salzburg, Austria and go on the tour. So just like the song from that amazing musical…here are a few of my favorite things.
First of all I love to travel. There have been times when my husband and I have gotten in the car with a packed suitcase and just drove until we decide where to stop. Such was the case on our 15th anniversary. We had saved $1,500 for our trip and knew we had always wanted to see Niagara Falls.
With that in mind we jumped into the car and headed out with the idea that we would not make any plans but that when we used half the money we would turn around and come home. Just barely making it to see the spectacular waterfall we turned around and safety made it home penniless.
The same concept was followed years later while laying on the beach in Nice, France. Glancing at the map I noticed that the “Tower of Pisa” was just inches away. Although it was a completely different country it seemed like a drive around the block. “Why not? my husband replied.” I am embarrassed to say the inches turned into many miles of “What where we thinking?” The infamous tower was not what we had imagined.
I love adventure so much that my first book was an interactive travel book on how to host international dinner parties called Taste of Humanity. (You can find it on this website.)
Also, my husband and I lead an annual Discovery Trip to Europe each fall where we teach Art, History, Philosophy, and Religion, while touring some of the most amazing sights correlating with our study.
Another favorite pastime of mine is fitness. As you may know I love to prayer walk, but walking is just the beginning of my love for physical activity. I am a certified Pilates Instructor as well as a Personal Trainer. At one time in my life my body was a great example of my discipline. Now I just have the diploma to prove my passion ha-ha. Really, I love fitness. There is something about being strong and in shape that makes me feel like I am being a good steward of my temple. And I like the energy I get when working out. I have always had some sort of fitness ministry in our churches, not that everyone in the congregation thought I should, but that is for another topic.
Along the same lines as fitness another favorite thing I love is fashion. Yeah I know that may seem like an oxymoron, Pastor and Fashion. I have loved creating style since I was in the eighth grade. I remember a rainy Saturday afternoon in St. Louis, Missouri when I got a pair of my old hip hugger, bellbottom blue jeans along with a bottle of bleach and a toothbrush and proceeded to write down the leg of my jeans “All You Need Is Love.” After a huge response from the other high school girls I hosted a bleach party at my house the following Saturday.
My love for fashion did not stop in High School. A few years ago I launched a clothing line that made its way into major department stores and high-end boutiques. Fashion is a way of expression for me and I love putting ideas together.
I must admit I am guilty of going to Nordstrom to see what is in style and then go to T.J. Maxx to make my purchase.
I think one of my most favorite things to do is to come home after a hardworking day and lay opposite my husband on the couch and hear him say “Should we just order out tonight, stay home and play Sequence together?”
I want to leave you with a key thought to ponder!
Know who you are, know what you love, and take time to enjoy them both.
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